Biyernes, Mayo 29, 2015

Forget Fitness Challenges—Sex Challenges Are Now a Thing

Thirty days to intimacy or your money back

Pinterest is loaded with different health and fitness challenges. Whether your goal is to be more hydrated or have a tighter butt, there are schedules out there urging you to drink more water or do more squats. So why not add a sex challenge to your Google calendar? It is health-related, after all.

Say you’ve been feeling a little tired, stressed, disconnected, or otherwise unsexy. Or maybe you just miss the constant, passionate sex of those first few months of your romantic relationship. Setting a sex challenge—in which you and your partner commit to sex every day for a week, a month, or a year—may help you get back on track, at least according to some experts.

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“It might be a way to spring life back into your relationship, into your connection,” says Neil Rosenthal, a marriage and family therapist and author of the book Love, Sex, and Staying Warm: Keeping the Flame Alive. “You can be relatively moderate and try it for a week or 10 days, then see how you both feel.”

If the idea of penciling in sex seems anything but sexy, Rosenthal says to remember that it’s about the big picture: "What’s important is that you're both agreeing to do something that makes you feel close and connected,” he says. “You're agreeing to make sex more of a priority, as opposed to all the other priorities in life.”

RELATED: Does Having More Sex Actually Make You Happier?

Granted, some experts believe that the forced nature of the concept does a disservice to couples. “Calling it a challenge is bothersome in and of itself,” says Nancy Irwin, Psy.D. “It becomes something you have to do, like there is a goalpost involved. Sex should be a fun, cooperative thing. You shouldn't be pushing it.” It's also worth noting that a recent study found that couples who were forced to double the amount of sex they were having actually experienced a slight decrease in happiness.

So what if you want to reap the positive benefits of something like a challenge (more orgasms!) and avoid the potential negatives (another item on the to-do list)? Like any other issue in a romantic relationship, the best policy is to address it openly and honestly.

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“Straightforward is better than subtle,” says Rosenthal. “Ask, ‘Would you be willing to try an experiment where we agree to have sex every day? Why don’t we try it for a week? Would it bother you?’” Irwin agrees: “You can’t make the other person feel guilty because that isn’t the best way to inspire someone. It’s more like, ‘I find you hot, I find you sexy, I just want to have more sex with you.’” Tough to argue with that.

And remember that a sex challenge is not going to fix deeper issues. “This is not for every couple and every circumstance,” says Rosenthal. “If you’re feeling disconnected because of infidelity or disrespect or lack of attention and energy, then more sex won’t make you feel suddenly warm and fuzzy.” So don’t take a sex challenge as a relationship cure-all, but as a fun way to reconnect. It’s just sex, after all.

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The Dangers of Using Google to Self-Diagnose

You might think you're saving your life by searching the web for answers—but you could be wrecking it.

Your hiccups just won't quit. Like, it's been two days. You could head to your M.D.'s office. But, groan. So inconvenient. And Dr. Interwebs is faster, simpler, and cheaper. It takes mere seconds to type symptoms into a search engine...and just a few more to learn that those persistent throat spasms could be a sign of a pulmonary embolism. Or a stroke. Or, holy shit, cancer.

We know you know the drill. Almost 80 percent of women pursue wellness intel online, and around 60 percent of quests are done specifically to diagnose a medical condition. These days, the average gal sees an M.D. just three times a year—but spends almost 52 hours prowling the 'Net for health help. Psychologists have given this tech-enabled obsessing over real symptoms or imagined ills a name: cyberchondria. It can build slowly or strike suddenly, but it always starts the same way.


"Everybody googles their symptoms, their diagnoses, and their treatments—and that's enabled people to be a lot more knowledgeable," says Lyle Dennis, M.D., chief of neurology at Bon Secours Charity Health System in Suffern, New York. "But the flip side is people are getting scared." Nearly half of all virtual health seekers end up more anxious than they were before they logged on, and it's easy to see why: Millions of medical sites, blogs, and Wiki pages can, intentionally or not, spew out confusing, overwhelming, or panic-inducing information—or, in too many cases to count, misinformation.

This digital-age version of hypochondria, and the sketchy content that fuels it, has gotten so bad that Google recently stepped in. Together with the Mayo Clinic, it created doctor-vetted e-cards that pop up in hundreds of health searches. (Type in, say, pinkeye or tennis elbow, and a concise graphic surfaces, with legit illustrations, symptoms, and treatments.) The cards may help ease cyberchondria, which—as the three examples below (all based on stories from real doctors) prove—can range from mild to extreme and can manifest in myriad unsettling forms.

Cindy had been tired for weeks. A web search for "fatigue" brought up site after site describing her exact symptoms and pointing to a likely diagnosis: systemic exertion intolerance disease (a.k.a. chronic fatigue syndrome). She ordered scores of supplements that promised relief. When they didn't—several months and hundreds of dollars later—a blood test from her M.D. revealed the real, easily treatable culprit: anemia.

"Anxiety often motivates us to find answers," says Thomas Fergus, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at Baylor University. It's human nature to identify any and all perceived threats, which makes online health hunting a loaded endeavor. Research shows that nearly one-third of people who type in medical terms start calm, then quickly escalate; cramps becomes ulcers becomes internal bleeding. Even common symptom-checking sites like WebMD or Healthline could lead you down a disquieting path: Per a Microsoft study, relatively harmless words like coughing are just as likely to bring up pages about serious problems as benign ones. "Based on Web searches, I've had patients with common headaches come in thinking they have brain tumors," says Sandra Fryhofer, M.D., an internist in Atlanta.

But many don't even make it that far. Of all the people who scour the Internet for diagnoses, nearly 30 percent fail to follow up with a doctor. "Some women are convinced they have an illness and decide to treat it themselves," says Michele Curtis, M.D., an ob-gyn in Houston. "Others become paralyzed by denial and don't want to hear an official diagnosis." Either way, some cyberchondriacs delay care—which can lead to serious consequences. For example, if sudden vaginal bleeding does turn out to be cervical cancer, early treatment can be lifesaving. (But, for real, you probably don't have cervical cancer!)

Maria was scrolling through Facebook when she saw a friend had been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS). A link sent Maria to a site that said MS has no cure. Another link to a message board was full of patients' descriptions of early symptoms, including tingling in the hands and feet. OMG. Maria had totally felt that before! She dialed her doc, demanding a battery of expensive and invasive tests (read: spinal tap). Everything came back negative.

Thing is, you don't have to have a single symptom for cyberchondria to suck you in. Reading "real life" stories, in particular, can be a catalyst for a "what if?" frenzy that leads to "me too!" Without context or professional 411, social media–shared stories can seem almost too relatable, says Curtis. "It's the narrative that matters to people, often more than the facts."


Take, for example, last summer's ubiquitous Ice Bucket Challenge to raise awareness and money for ALS. The campaign, says Dennis, led to an increase in people calling their physicians, concerned that they, too, had the fatal—and very rare—condition. And while some cyberchondriacs shun the doctor's office at all costs, others rush in for every available exam.

Docs know they shouldn't order tests sans red flags, but many cave in anyway. The results: higher out-of-pocket fees (insurers often don't cover unnecessary scans, even if an M.D. prescribes them) and, potentially, lots more angst. "Some women are so convinced they have a certain ailment that it's hard to dissuade them, even with proof," says Curtis.

Sara had a dull ache in her right side. A quick Google search suggested it was indigestion or a pulled muscle. She kept clicking and landed on a site that mentioned appendicitis. Alarmed, Sara ferreted out more on the condition and found a self-test: press and release on the area to see if that hurts. Ouch! Sara called her doctor, who sent her to the ER—right before her appendix burst.

Few medical conditions can snowball as fast as an online health investigation—but in some cases, a little cyberchondria can lead you in the right direction. To wit, one survey found that 40 percent of digital diagnosers said a professional confirmed their suspicion. As Sara discovered, doing some homework can jump-start the healing process.


So...is cyberchondria wrecking your life—or saving it? The best advice is to learn how to channel your instincts and know when to bring in an M.D. (um, always). These strategies will put you on the path to saner, savvier searching:

Get some perspective. "Just because you share a symptom with a disease doesn't mean you have the disease," says Fryhofer. There's probably a simple, non-life-threatening explanation for your aches or pains. Don't ignore symptoms, but don't immediately assume the worst.

Cool the self-diagnosing. Repeat after us: I will write down symptoms and questions and bring them to my doctor. She'll do an exam, suggest tests, and come to a diagnosis based on factors you may not have considered, such as your age and family history.

Keep psychology in mind. One study found that you're more likely to believe you have a condition if you see all your symptoms listed in a row, rather than broken up by unfamiliar ones. Read through symptom lists completely, without skipping anything. If many don't apply to you, you can probably breathe easier.

Be all about action. Booking an appointment is useful; worrying yourself sick isn't, says Brad Schmidt, Ph.D., director of the Anxiety and Behavioral Health Clinic at Florida State University. If you still find yourself wigging out, limit searches to no more than 20 minutes each, or put a total ban on googling until you see your doctor.

For more info on how to get legit health information online, check out the June 2015 issue of Women's Health, on newsstands now.

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How to Wear Flats and Still Look Like Hot S**t

Glamour and comfort don’t have to be mutually exclusive.

I have a confession to make: I am flats’ number-one fan. So when I heard that Cannes allegedly banned them from the red carpet this year (a.k.a., #Flatgate, to you social media mavens out there), I too was totally bummed. Don’t get me wrong: Heels can be fabulous. But the right pair of flats can also be worthy of a strut down the red carpet.

Need further proof? Here are a few summer-ready fancy looks with which rocking your favorite pair of heels is totally acceptable.

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Add Bedazzled Flats to a Shorter Cocktail Dress
For dresses that fall just above your knee, flats are the perfect alternative to heels—your legs can still look long and not get into stumpy, frumpy territory. So if you're feeling glam, bling out an A-line cocktail dress by adding a little sparkle on your toes. I adore styling funky, bedazzled flats with this pretty Kate Spade dress to give my outfit a little pizazz that's anything but casual—while making sure I’m comfortable well into cocktail hour.

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Wear Closed-Toe Flats with Maxi Dresses
When it comes to maxi dresses, I’m a firm believer that flats, rather than heels, are the way to go to give your look a polished but laidback summer feel. And I love a good pair of Parisian-inspired flats, especially of the D’Orsay variety. They’re effortlessly chic, ultra comfortable and go with just about everything—all winning points in my book! During the summer months, I often wear my favorite pair with this flowy, printed maxi dress for rooftop parties or summer soirées. Style tip: Make sure to pair closed-toe flats with your maxis to ensure your look isn’t too casual for a more dressed-up event.

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Remember That "Flats" Has a Broad Definition
I invested in a sparkly pair of pants during the holidays last year, and I can’t get enough of how fantastic (and comfy!) they are for any season. Add a fun pair of tennis shoes (like these Kate Spade for Keds) instead of heels to an awesome pants look to showcase your laidback, unique style. The unexpectedly chic shoes will win you major fashion points for creativity and comfort. Plus, you can wear them anywhere, from the red carpet to a wedding (really, they even make sparkly wedding Keds!).

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Work Ballet Flats When You Need Transition Footwear
There’s a reason ballet flats are a classic—they’re polished, refined, and oh-so-comfy to boot. For days that take me from the office to downtown, I reach for my favorite Tory Burch ballet flats. They’re always in style and add a level of refinement to an already-classic busy gal look without being as impractical as heels. Plus, I don’t know about you, but I’ve yet to master wearing heels from morning 'til night. While I wouldn’t wear this outfit to a red carpet event, it’s perfect for transitioning a look from the office to cocktails.

See? Your trusted flats are perfect with just about any fancy outfit in your closet! And when it comes to spending a night out on the town, trust me: You’d much rather be the girl dancing the night away than the one limping home. Rock your flats with pride!

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Maya McDonald is a stylish social media pro living out her dreams in Chicago. When she’s not creating content for brands, she can be found penning Charmingly Styled and writing for a variety of magazines. She adores all-natural beauty, farmers' markets, and traveling the world for the best latte (she’ll let you know when she finds it!).

The Abs-Sculpting Move You'll Love (And Love to Hate)

Get a rock-solid core without getting up off the floor.

Join the Women's Health Weekend Challenge to help you meet your fitness goals fast and make your weekend workouts count. Thousands of women already have. Join them, and achieve your fitness goals faster!

Single-Leg Side Plank: You can keep doing crunches until you're blue in the face, or your can spice things up and get the crazy benefits of this fun plank variation. This exercise works your core, obliques, shoulders, and glutes. But don't be intimidated—you're going to crush this.

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SO…ARE YOU IN?!

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Huwebes, Mayo 28, 2015

You Can Crash This Couple's Wedding Without Even Getting Off Your Couch

Welcome to the age of Periscope nuptials.

It’s tough to ignore how much social media has changed weddings. A couple might coin their wedding hashtag within minutes of the proposal, and you can change your Facebook status to “married” right there at the ceremony. There’s room for innovation with the introduction of each new social medium, and this wedding season you can watch a couple exchange vows live on Periscope.

Kyle Harris, 24, and Bryanna Mazzella, 23, are getting married May 30 at 3 p.m. EST in Long Island, New York, and they’re live-streaming the event on the brand-new Twitter-owned app. Since Periscope is a mere two months old, the couple is fairly sure this is a first.

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“We have a lot of people who won’t be able to make it,” says Harris. “And it’s not logical to invite every person we know, but why can’t we let everyone come, via the Internet?” The couple has always been really excited by and attached to social media. In fact, they even met via Twitter.

“I was just looking through my followers and stumbled upon her profile,” says Harris. “I saw she had a YouTube channel and tweeted out the link, saying, ‘Check out this girl’s music!’ She tweeted back, and one thing led to another.” It’s a love story that could have only happened in the 21st century, and so it seems perfectly appropriate to keep the tech theme going throughout the wedding itself.

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The reaction from family and friends? “It’s been overwhelmingly positive,” says Mazzella. “We have a couple of family members who are elderly and can’t make the trip or some that are our age who can’t afford it or take time off work. Now they get to see it anyway!”

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Of course, putting your relationship and wedding all out there on the Internet means opening yourself up to trolls. “A lot of people are skeptical,” says Mazzella. “They think it’s an intrusion, or they ask, ‘Why do you want your special day broadcast to everyone?’ But we don’t see it that way at all.”

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Their celebration is just hours away, and anyone with a wifi connection is invited to tune in (if you’re not Periscope-savvy, you can also watch here). So what can strangers expect from this ceremony? “Lots of surprises,” says Mazzella. “I don’t want to talk too much about them in case I spoil them. There are some things that Kyle doesn’t know about and some things he’s been working on with my parents.”

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And the social-media magic doesn’t end with the live stream. The couple will have a photo booth at their reception, but it’s not your run-of-the-mill props-and-backdrop sitch. “The booth is worldwide,” says Mazzella. Their wedding hashtag will provide a stream of photos to the booth, where they will be printed out live. “Our friends watching from Costa Rica can take a photo, and it will print at the reception,” she says. “I think that’s an insanely amazing way to connect.”

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Demi Lovato Speaks Up About Living with Bipolar Disorder

The singer shares how she felt when she was finally diagnosed, and what life is like in recovery.

Demi Lovato has never been shy about sharing her personal story. Back in 2011, the now-22-year-old entered rehab, where she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder after years of struggling with bulimia, cutting, and drug addiction. Now, the singer of hit songs such as “Heart Attack” and “Skyscraper” is the spokesperson for a new campaign called Be Vocal: Speak Up for Mental Health. The initiative focuses on encouraging people with mental illness to speak up, as well as for others to raise their voices in support of changing the way mental illness is talked about and breaking down the stigma surrounding it.

“It’s a passion of mine—mental health advocacy—and I’ve decided to partner up with Be Vocal because it’s something that’s really powerful when it comes to not only informing people about what mental illness is, but also what you can do to get help,” Demi tells WomensHealthMag.com. She adds that she wants women to know that “it’s possible to live well, feel well, and also find happiness with bipolar disorder or any other mental illness they’re struggling with.”

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While many celebs try to keep their personal health issues out of the press, Demi is using her platform to raise awareness and help others in need. “I remember sitting with my manager and my family and talking to them about whether or not to speak out about the issues that I was dealing with,” she says. “I knew that there were two options: I could either not talk about my stint in rehab and hope that it went away, or I could talk about it and inspire people to get help for their issues, as well, so that’s exactly what I did.”

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According to DBSA, about 5.7 million American adults have bipolar disorder. What’s more, it can often take years for someone to get the correct diagnosis. This is what happened to Demi. “For years, people said I was depressed, and I actually didn’t know myself why I was so upset and why I would have these episodes of mania—what I now know is mania,” she says.

During these manic periods, Demi says she’d stay up until 5 a.m. and write seven songs in one night. “Sometimes I felt invincible, and it was these moments when my mind would go all over the place,” she says. Not knowing what was behind her behavior led to addiction. "When you don’t know what’s happening, why you’re feeling certain ways, and you don’t have the answers yet, people tend to self-medicate, which is exactly what I did," she says. "Now I know that when I focus on my treatment plan with my team and my support system, I’m able to not only maintain a healthy mind, but I’m able to maintain my sobriety."

RELATED: Demi Lovato Is Speaking Out About Bipolar Disorder

Demi was relieved when she finally got the diagnosis. “I went into treatment and I was able to work with incredible doctors who helped me figure out that I was, in fact, bipolar, she says. “It was a great feeling to find out that there wasn’t anything wrong with me,” she says. “I just had a mental illness.”

While she’s doing well now, Demi says recovery is something she has to work on every single day. “You’re not a car that goes into the shop and gets fixed and you don’t have to deal with the problem again,” she says. When asked if she ever struggles with being tempted to slip back into old habits, she had this to say: “It gets easier, but of course there are times that it’s difficult. But I know everything that I would lose—not only my friends and family, but my fans. They look up to me, and I don’t want anyone to think that it’s okay to go back on what you stand for.”

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One of the major ways Demi maintains her mental health and sobriety is through working out for an hour to an hour and a half every day. “I actually exercise as much as possible because there’s something that it does—it just helps,” she says, explaining that she enjoys a mix of circuit training, cycling, and hiking. “I used to meditate every day, as well. I don’t do that as often [anymore] because I feel like exercise is kind of a form of meditation for me—what it does to me spiritually and physically.”

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10 Crazy Cool Eyebrow Styles We're Too Chicken to Try

Are you bold enough?

Earlier this week, actress Kaley Cuoco took her eyebrow game to the next level by dying hers pink. Turns out, though, that experimenting with your brows is nothing new in the beauty world. From dying them all sorts of fun colors to gilding and decorating them for fashion shows, these days, it seems like eyebrows are basically just another accessory. We've rounded up some of our favorite examples of extreme eyebrows to inspire you to think beyond the tweezers and run-of-the-mill brow palettes.

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The runway has always been a source of inspiration for clothing, hair, and makeup—and eyebrows are no exception. Last year's spring/summer 2015 Rodarte show featured models walking down the runway with their brows covered entirely with faux piercings. And the year before that, Dior's models wore gold eyebrows:

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If those don't seem extreme enough, how about these eyebrow appliqués from the Romance Was Born runway show all the way back in 2009?

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An equally striking but more, erm, minimal approach, avant-garde artist/singer Amanda Palmer has been shaving off her eyebrows for years and then drawing them back on as squiggly lines:

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Oh, yeah, and who can forget Miley Cyrus' bleached no-brow look?

And just to be clear: The wacky eyebrow trend is not just a runway and Hollywood phenomenon. Check out these impressive brow pics from Instagram:

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My fave color #purple #crazyeyebrows

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While we admit that a lot of these may not be wearable for every day life, it's definitely fun to know that there's so much you can do with your eyebrows!

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