Linggo, Mayo 31, 2015

The Surprising Factor That Makes People More Likely to Cheat

We didn’t see this one coming.

Cheating is a terrifying prospect when you’re in a relationship. And while the majority of people don’t cheat, it can happen. A new study from the University of Connecticut is out to discover just what makes people cheat—and the results are surprising: Both men and women are more prone to cheating on their spouses when they're more economically dependent on them, the research found.

For the study, researcher Christin Munsch, Ph.D., an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Connecticut, analyzed pooled data of 9,000 people, aged 18 to 32, from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth. She looked at how satisfied people were in their marriage and their sexual activity to determine whether they cheated. What she discovered: In the average year, there’s about a five percent chance that women who are completely financially dependent on their husbands will have an affair and a 15 percent chance that men who are completely financially dependent on their wives will cheat. Eep!

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Not only that, but Munsch discovered that men who made money but weren’t the primary breadwinners were also more likely to cheat. The sweet spot, she discovered, was when they earned 70 percent of the family’s total income. At that point, they were the least likely to cheat.

Women, on the other hand, are less likely to cheat the more money they earn for their families.

What’s up with all of this? “We don’t want to be in relationships with people who make us feel like losers," says Munsch. "We like equity in our relationships." For example, we don’t necessarily want to be with someone who is much more attractive, successful, or intelligent than we are, just the same as we don’t want to be with someone who is much less attractive, successful, or intelligent.

RELATED: 6 Signs He's Probably Cheating on You

Munsch says cheating is a way that people can distance themselves from a spouse that’s making them feel threatened. “Men in particular don’t like being dependent on another person,” she says. “There’s something in the combination of not liking inequality and their masculinity that can be dangerous.”

However, Munsch stresses that people shouldn’t freak out about her findings. “The majority of people who are economically dependent are not cheating,” she says. “Men have a 15 percent chance of cheating but an 85 percent chance of staying faithful. I don’t want people to read this and think their relationship is doomed.”

RELATED: If They Cheated Once, Will They Cheat Again?

Her takeaway: The most important thing is to pick a partner who is not going to be threatened by your success. And on the flip side, it’s important for you to be a cheerleader for your partner’s success, as well.

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Biyernes, Mayo 29, 2015

Find Out How Your Sex Number Compares to Other People’s

In case you’d rather not learn during an awkward bachelorette party game

You know you're curious about how your number compares to other people's (hence the premise of the Anna Faris film). But now, you can stop wondering, thanks to a new "sex history calculator" from Slate.com.

"You, dear reader, are a human being. And as a human being, you are naturally curious, a little bit self-conscious, and maybe even competitive about sex," write Andrew Kahn and Jordan Weissmann while introducing the interactive tool. They go on to explain that, after hearing about research that found many millennials are on track to have fewer sexual partners throughout the course of their lifetime than their parents, they wanted to create something that would help individuals put the data used in the study into context. So they took the data from the General Social Survey (what the authors of the aforementioned study went off of) and used it to create a calculator. Here's what the tool says about a 28-year-old woman who's slept with six people:

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And here's what it says about a man with the same stats:

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Of course, that doesn't mean that any given number is "better" than any other—but it is interesting to see yourself charted against everyone else. To try the tool for yourself, visit Slate.com.

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These Time-Saving Tricks Helped Me Lose 75 Pounds While Working 3 Jobs

When Felicia Greenwald figured out how to squeeze healthy habits into her schedule, she finally lost the weight she’d been trying to drop for years.

Before: 235

After: 161

The Lifestyle
In high school, I weighed 175 pounds. I was super active and played a ton of sports, but when I went to college, I gained about 20 pounds. That was probably because I totally stopped working out and my eating habits changed dramatically. Um, hello cafeteria food and take out.

After graduation, I moved to California and started working three jobs. At the same time, I began dating this guy who loved to go out to eat. Most of the time we spent together was focused around going to restaurants, and we'd always end up at places like Denny's or a Mexican spot. Over the course of our five-month relationship, my weight went up 40 pounds, bringing me to 235 pounds. I could tell I was gaining and didn't like the way I looked.

The Change
After we broke up (for reasons that had nothing to do with my weight), I went on a four-day hike through the Grand Canyon with some of my family. By the end of the trip, my cousins said it looked like I had lost some weight—and I had! When I got home, I weighed myself and saw that I'd lost 10 pounds. It felt really good, so I tried to incorporate the habits from that trip into my daily life. I stopped drinking soda and started sipping water, cutting back on fast food, preparing my own meals, and exercising at least five days a week.

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It was tough trying to find the time to make healthy meals at home, but I decided to simplify the process by making my meals ahead of time. I bought a food processer and juicer and started making veggie-packed juices every morning. For dinner or lunch, I made soups in my food processor and ate one batch throughout the week. To prevent food fatigue, I added in grains and other ingredients to the soup base at every meal. That way it didn't feel like I was eating the same thing every day. After four months, I was down to 182 pounds. The last time I'd weighed that much was in high school!

Soon after that, I started my own photography business, and the stress of it had a huge impact on my body. Over the course of two years, my good routine started to fade, and my weight constantly fluctuated about 15 pounds. Instead of trying to stick with my healthy habits after gaining weight, I started trying new "diets" that consisted of cutting out carbs or only drinking juice for a month. I always ended up making unhealthy choices again. It was a bad cycle for me.

I knew I wanted to keep the weight off for good, but I didn't know how to do it. One of my friends told me that she'd started this program called the Jenny Schatzle program. It's six weeks of high-intensity interval training classes, a consultation with a nutritionist, and a meal plan to follow. I was hesitant at first because the program was kind of pricey, but after I tried the first class, I decided to do it.

The workouts were really addictive. They changed all the time and kept my body guessing, which was so much better than my go-through-the-motions gym routine. It was easy for me to stay with a consistent routine since I was looking forward to each class.

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The dietician told me that I actually wasn't eating frequently enough, so I started incorporating more healthy snacks into my diet in addition to following their meal plan—which focused on eating more fruits and veggies instead of cutting out entire food groups, like I was doing before. After six weeks, I'd lost 10 pounds and decided to do a second session. I lost another 20 pounds! By getting into a consistent routine with the program, I've learned that my weight and diet and exercise routine should make me happy—not be something I dread thinking about. That idea has helped me stay motivated to stick with my new habits.

Though I'm still doing the program, I work out on my own when I can't make it to class and focus on the moves I learned there. I've also kept up my healthy eating habits and even allow myself some indulgences from time to time. Today, I weigh 160 pounds.

The Reward
By losing weight, I've come out of my shell and gained a ton of confidence. It's actually helped me a lot in my career as a wedding photographer. I'm better equipped to connect with clients at the beginning of our sessions as opposed to easing into it—it helps the pictures come out better.

RELATED: How Often You Should Switch Up Your Workout to Keep Losing Weight

Felicia's Tips
Work out whenever you can. Even if I just have 10 minutes to work out, I do it. Most of the time, I end up exercising longer than I'd originally planned to. It's helped me stick with my good habits even when I'm feeling lazy.
Don't say "diet starts Monday." I used to do this all the time. I would make healthy choices at the beginning of the week and then slowly slide back into my old habits. I learned to stop thinking that eating something unhealthy gave me permission to keep making bad choices. Now, I go back to my healthy ways after every satisfying meal or snack.
Don't underestimate yourself. I never thought I would weigh less than I did in high school, but after I hit my goal of 175, I realized that losing weight was easier than I thought. You just have to stick with a healthy routine, and you'll get there.

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Forget Fitness Challenges—Sex Challenges Are Now a Thing

Thirty days to intimacy or your money back

Pinterest is loaded with different health and fitness challenges. Whether your goal is to be more hydrated or have a tighter butt, there are schedules out there urging you to drink more water or do more squats. So why not add a sex challenge to your Google calendar? It is health-related, after all.

Say you’ve been feeling a little tired, stressed, disconnected, or otherwise unsexy. Or maybe you just miss the constant, passionate sex of those first few months of your romantic relationship. Setting a sex challenge—in which you and your partner commit to sex every day for a week, a month, or a year—may help you get back on track, at least according to some experts.

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“It might be a way to spring life back into your relationship, into your connection,” says Neil Rosenthal, a marriage and family therapist and author of the book Love, Sex, and Staying Warm: Keeping the Flame Alive. “You can be relatively moderate and try it for a week or 10 days, then see how you both feel.”

If the idea of penciling in sex seems anything but sexy, Rosenthal says to remember that it’s about the big picture: "What’s important is that you're both agreeing to do something that makes you feel close and connected,” he says. “You're agreeing to make sex more of a priority, as opposed to all the other priorities in life.”

RELATED: Does Having More Sex Actually Make You Happier?

Granted, some experts believe that the forced nature of the concept does a disservice to couples. “Calling it a challenge is bothersome in and of itself,” says Nancy Irwin, Psy.D. “It becomes something you have to do, like there is a goalpost involved. Sex should be a fun, cooperative thing. You shouldn't be pushing it.” It's also worth noting that a recent study found that couples who were forced to double the amount of sex they were having actually experienced a slight decrease in happiness.

So what if you want to reap the positive benefits of something like a challenge (more orgasms!) and avoid the potential negatives (another item on the to-do list)? Like any other issue in a romantic relationship, the best policy is to address it openly and honestly.

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“Straightforward is better than subtle,” says Rosenthal. “Ask, ‘Would you be willing to try an experiment where we agree to have sex every day? Why don’t we try it for a week? Would it bother you?’” Irwin agrees: “You can’t make the other person feel guilty because that isn’t the best way to inspire someone. It’s more like, ‘I find you hot, I find you sexy, I just want to have more sex with you.’” Tough to argue with that.

And remember that a sex challenge is not going to fix deeper issues. “This is not for every couple and every circumstance,” says Rosenthal. “If you’re feeling disconnected because of infidelity or disrespect or lack of attention and energy, then more sex won’t make you feel suddenly warm and fuzzy.” So don’t take a sex challenge as a relationship cure-all, but as a fun way to reconnect. It’s just sex, after all.

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The Dangers of Using Google to Self-Diagnose

You might think you're saving your life by searching the web for answers—but you could be wrecking it.

Your hiccups just won't quit. Like, it's been two days. You could head to your M.D.'s office. But, groan. So inconvenient. And Dr. Interwebs is faster, simpler, and cheaper. It takes mere seconds to type symptoms into a search engine...and just a few more to learn that those persistent throat spasms could be a sign of a pulmonary embolism. Or a stroke. Or, holy shit, cancer.

We know you know the drill. Almost 80 percent of women pursue wellness intel online, and around 60 percent of quests are done specifically to diagnose a medical condition. These days, the average gal sees an M.D. just three times a year—but spends almost 52 hours prowling the 'Net for health help. Psychologists have given this tech-enabled obsessing over real symptoms or imagined ills a name: cyberchondria. It can build slowly or strike suddenly, but it always starts the same way.


"Everybody googles their symptoms, their diagnoses, and their treatments—and that's enabled people to be a lot more knowledgeable," says Lyle Dennis, M.D., chief of neurology at Bon Secours Charity Health System in Suffern, New York. "But the flip side is people are getting scared." Nearly half of all virtual health seekers end up more anxious than they were before they logged on, and it's easy to see why: Millions of medical sites, blogs, and Wiki pages can, intentionally or not, spew out confusing, overwhelming, or panic-inducing information—or, in too many cases to count, misinformation.

This digital-age version of hypochondria, and the sketchy content that fuels it, has gotten so bad that Google recently stepped in. Together with the Mayo Clinic, it created doctor-vetted e-cards that pop up in hundreds of health searches. (Type in, say, pinkeye or tennis elbow, and a concise graphic surfaces, with legit illustrations, symptoms, and treatments.) The cards may help ease cyberchondria, which—as the three examples below (all based on stories from real doctors) prove—can range from mild to extreme and can manifest in myriad unsettling forms.

Cindy had been tired for weeks. A web search for "fatigue" brought up site after site describing her exact symptoms and pointing to a likely diagnosis: systemic exertion intolerance disease (a.k.a. chronic fatigue syndrome). She ordered scores of supplements that promised relief. When they didn't—several months and hundreds of dollars later—a blood test from her M.D. revealed the real, easily treatable culprit: anemia.

"Anxiety often motivates us to find answers," says Thomas Fergus, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at Baylor University. It's human nature to identify any and all perceived threats, which makes online health hunting a loaded endeavor. Research shows that nearly one-third of people who type in medical terms start calm, then quickly escalate; cramps becomes ulcers becomes internal bleeding. Even common symptom-checking sites like WebMD or Healthline could lead you down a disquieting path: Per a Microsoft study, relatively harmless words like coughing are just as likely to bring up pages about serious problems as benign ones. "Based on Web searches, I've had patients with common headaches come in thinking they have brain tumors," says Sandra Fryhofer, M.D., an internist in Atlanta.

But many don't even make it that far. Of all the people who scour the Internet for diagnoses, nearly 30 percent fail to follow up with a doctor. "Some women are convinced they have an illness and decide to treat it themselves," says Michele Curtis, M.D., an ob-gyn in Houston. "Others become paralyzed by denial and don't want to hear an official diagnosis." Either way, some cyberchondriacs delay care—which can lead to serious consequences. For example, if sudden vaginal bleeding does turn out to be cervical cancer, early treatment can be lifesaving. (But, for real, you probably don't have cervical cancer!)

Maria was scrolling through Facebook when she saw a friend had been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS). A link sent Maria to a site that said MS has no cure. Another link to a message board was full of patients' descriptions of early symptoms, including tingling in the hands and feet. OMG. Maria had totally felt that before! She dialed her doc, demanding a battery of expensive and invasive tests (read: spinal tap). Everything came back negative.

Thing is, you don't have to have a single symptom for cyberchondria to suck you in. Reading "real life" stories, in particular, can be a catalyst for a "what if?" frenzy that leads to "me too!" Without context or professional 411, social media–shared stories can seem almost too relatable, says Curtis. "It's the narrative that matters to people, often more than the facts."


Take, for example, last summer's ubiquitous Ice Bucket Challenge to raise awareness and money for ALS. The campaign, says Dennis, led to an increase in people calling their physicians, concerned that they, too, had the fatal—and very rare—condition. And while some cyberchondriacs shun the doctor's office at all costs, others rush in for every available exam.

Docs know they shouldn't order tests sans red flags, but many cave in anyway. The results: higher out-of-pocket fees (insurers often don't cover unnecessary scans, even if an M.D. prescribes them) and, potentially, lots more angst. "Some women are so convinced they have a certain ailment that it's hard to dissuade them, even with proof," says Curtis.

Sara had a dull ache in her right side. A quick Google search suggested it was indigestion or a pulled muscle. She kept clicking and landed on a site that mentioned appendicitis. Alarmed, Sara ferreted out more on the condition and found a self-test: press and release on the area to see if that hurts. Ouch! Sara called her doctor, who sent her to the ER—right before her appendix burst.

Few medical conditions can snowball as fast as an online health investigation—but in some cases, a little cyberchondria can lead you in the right direction. To wit, one survey found that 40 percent of digital diagnosers said a professional confirmed their suspicion. As Sara discovered, doing some homework can jump-start the healing process.


So...is cyberchondria wrecking your life—or saving it? The best advice is to learn how to channel your instincts and know when to bring in an M.D. (um, always). These strategies will put you on the path to saner, savvier searching:

Get some perspective. "Just because you share a symptom with a disease doesn't mean you have the disease," says Fryhofer. There's probably a simple, non-life-threatening explanation for your aches or pains. Don't ignore symptoms, but don't immediately assume the worst.

Cool the self-diagnosing. Repeat after us: I will write down symptoms and questions and bring them to my doctor. She'll do an exam, suggest tests, and come to a diagnosis based on factors you may not have considered, such as your age and family history.

Keep psychology in mind. One study found that you're more likely to believe you have a condition if you see all your symptoms listed in a row, rather than broken up by unfamiliar ones. Read through symptom lists completely, without skipping anything. If many don't apply to you, you can probably breathe easier.

Be all about action. Booking an appointment is useful; worrying yourself sick isn't, says Brad Schmidt, Ph.D., director of the Anxiety and Behavioral Health Clinic at Florida State University. If you still find yourself wigging out, limit searches to no more than 20 minutes each, or put a total ban on googling until you see your doctor.

For more info on how to get legit health information online, check out the June 2015 issue of Women's Health, on newsstands now.

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How to Wear Flats and Still Look Like Hot S**t

Glamour and comfort don’t have to be mutually exclusive.

I have a confession to make: I am flats’ number-one fan. So when I heard that Cannes allegedly banned them from the red carpet this year (a.k.a., #Flatgate, to you social media mavens out there), I too was totally bummed. Don’t get me wrong: Heels can be fabulous. But the right pair of flats can also be worthy of a strut down the red carpet.

Need further proof? Here are a few summer-ready fancy looks with which rocking your favorite pair of heels is totally acceptable.

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Add Bedazzled Flats to a Shorter Cocktail Dress
For dresses that fall just above your knee, flats are the perfect alternative to heels—your legs can still look long and not get into stumpy, frumpy territory. So if you're feeling glam, bling out an A-line cocktail dress by adding a little sparkle on your toes. I adore styling funky, bedazzled flats with this pretty Kate Spade dress to give my outfit a little pizazz that's anything but casual—while making sure I’m comfortable well into cocktail hour.

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Wear Closed-Toe Flats with Maxi Dresses
When it comes to maxi dresses, I’m a firm believer that flats, rather than heels, are the way to go to give your look a polished but laidback summer feel. And I love a good pair of Parisian-inspired flats, especially of the D’Orsay variety. They’re effortlessly chic, ultra comfortable and go with just about everything—all winning points in my book! During the summer months, I often wear my favorite pair with this flowy, printed maxi dress for rooftop parties or summer soirées. Style tip: Make sure to pair closed-toe flats with your maxis to ensure your look isn’t too casual for a more dressed-up event.

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Remember That "Flats" Has a Broad Definition
I invested in a sparkly pair of pants during the holidays last year, and I can’t get enough of how fantastic (and comfy!) they are for any season. Add a fun pair of tennis shoes (like these Kate Spade for Keds) instead of heels to an awesome pants look to showcase your laidback, unique style. The unexpectedly chic shoes will win you major fashion points for creativity and comfort. Plus, you can wear them anywhere, from the red carpet to a wedding (really, they even make sparkly wedding Keds!).

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Work Ballet Flats When You Need Transition Footwear
There’s a reason ballet flats are a classic—they’re polished, refined, and oh-so-comfy to boot. For days that take me from the office to downtown, I reach for my favorite Tory Burch ballet flats. They’re always in style and add a level of refinement to an already-classic busy gal look without being as impractical as heels. Plus, I don’t know about you, but I’ve yet to master wearing heels from morning 'til night. While I wouldn’t wear this outfit to a red carpet event, it’s perfect for transitioning a look from the office to cocktails.

See? Your trusted flats are perfect with just about any fancy outfit in your closet! And when it comes to spending a night out on the town, trust me: You’d much rather be the girl dancing the night away than the one limping home. Rock your flats with pride!


Maya McDonald is a stylish social media pro living out her dreams in Chicago. When she’s not creating content for brands, she can be found penning Charmingly Styled and writing for a variety of magazines. She adores all-natural beauty, farmers' markets, and traveling the world for the best latte (she’ll let you know when she finds it!).

The Abs-Sculpting Move You'll Love (And Love to Hate)

Get a rock-solid core without getting up off the floor.

Join the Women's Health Weekend Challenge to help you meet your fitness goals fast and make your weekend workouts count. Thousands of women already have. Join them, and achieve your fitness goals faster!

Single-Leg Side Plank: You can keep doing crunches until you're blue in the face, or your can spice things up and get the crazy benefits of this fun plank variation. This exercise works your core, obliques, shoulders, and glutes. But don't be intimidated—you're going to crush this.

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SO…ARE YOU IN?!

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Huwebes, Mayo 28, 2015

You Can Crash This Couple's Wedding Without Even Getting Off Your Couch

Welcome to the age of Periscope nuptials.

It’s tough to ignore how much social media has changed weddings. A couple might coin their wedding hashtag within minutes of the proposal, and you can change your Facebook status to “married” right there at the ceremony. There’s room for innovation with the introduction of each new social medium, and this wedding season you can watch a couple exchange vows live on Periscope.

Kyle Harris, 24, and Bryanna Mazzella, 23, are getting married May 30 at 3 p.m. EST in Long Island, New York, and they’re live-streaming the event on the brand-new Twitter-owned app. Since Periscope is a mere two months old, the couple is fairly sure this is a first.

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“We have a lot of people who won’t be able to make it,” says Harris. “And it’s not logical to invite every person we know, but why can’t we let everyone come, via the Internet?” The couple has always been really excited by and attached to social media. In fact, they even met via Twitter.

“I was just looking through my followers and stumbled upon her profile,” says Harris. “I saw she had a YouTube channel and tweeted out the link, saying, ‘Check out this girl’s music!’ She tweeted back, and one thing led to another.” It’s a love story that could have only happened in the 21st century, and so it seems perfectly appropriate to keep the tech theme going throughout the wedding itself.

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The reaction from family and friends? “It’s been overwhelmingly positive,” says Mazzella. “We have a couple of family members who are elderly and can’t make the trip or some that are our age who can’t afford it or take time off work. Now they get to see it anyway!”

RELATED: How to Attend a Wedding Without Going into Debt

Of course, putting your relationship and wedding all out there on the Internet means opening yourself up to trolls. “A lot of people are skeptical,” says Mazzella. “They think it’s an intrusion, or they ask, ‘Why do you want your special day broadcast to everyone?’ But we don’t see it that way at all.”

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Their celebration is just hours away, and anyone with a wifi connection is invited to tune in (if you’re not Periscope-savvy, you can also watch here). So what can strangers expect from this ceremony? “Lots of surprises,” says Mazzella. “I don’t want to talk too much about them in case I spoil them. There are some things that Kyle doesn’t know about and some things he’s been working on with my parents.”

RELATED: These 14 Women Had Secret Weddings—And No Regrets

And the social-media magic doesn’t end with the live stream. The couple will have a photo booth at their reception, but it’s not your run-of-the-mill props-and-backdrop sitch. “The booth is worldwide,” says Mazzella. Their wedding hashtag will provide a stream of photos to the booth, where they will be printed out live. “Our friends watching from Costa Rica can take a photo, and it will print at the reception,” she says. “I think that’s an insanely amazing way to connect.”

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Demi Lovato Speaks Up About Living with Bipolar Disorder

The singer shares how she felt when she was finally diagnosed, and what life is like in recovery.

Demi Lovato has never been shy about sharing her personal story. Back in 2011, the now-22-year-old entered rehab, where she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder after years of struggling with bulimia, cutting, and drug addiction. Now, the singer of hit songs such as “Heart Attack” and “Skyscraper” is the spokesperson for a new campaign called Be Vocal: Speak Up for Mental Health. The initiative focuses on encouraging people with mental illness to speak up, as well as for others to raise their voices in support of changing the way mental illness is talked about and breaking down the stigma surrounding it.

“It’s a passion of mine—mental health advocacy—and I’ve decided to partner up with Be Vocal because it’s something that’s really powerful when it comes to not only informing people about what mental illness is, but also what you can do to get help,” Demi tells WomensHealthMag.com. She adds that she wants women to know that “it’s possible to live well, feel well, and also find happiness with bipolar disorder or any other mental illness they’re struggling with.”

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While many celebs try to keep their personal health issues out of the press, Demi is using her platform to raise awareness and help others in need. “I remember sitting with my manager and my family and talking to them about whether or not to speak out about the issues that I was dealing with,” she says. “I knew that there were two options: I could either not talk about my stint in rehab and hope that it went away, or I could talk about it and inspire people to get help for their issues, as well, so that’s exactly what I did.”

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According to DBSA, about 5.7 million American adults have bipolar disorder. What’s more, it can often take years for someone to get the correct diagnosis. This is what happened to Demi. “For years, people said I was depressed, and I actually didn’t know myself why I was so upset and why I would have these episodes of mania—what I now know is mania,” she says.

During these manic periods, Demi says she’d stay up until 5 a.m. and write seven songs in one night. “Sometimes I felt invincible, and it was these moments when my mind would go all over the place,” she says. Not knowing what was behind her behavior led to addiction. "When you don’t know what’s happening, why you’re feeling certain ways, and you don’t have the answers yet, people tend to self-medicate, which is exactly what I did," she says. "Now I know that when I focus on my treatment plan with my team and my support system, I’m able to not only maintain a healthy mind, but I’m able to maintain my sobriety."

RELATED: Demi Lovato Is Speaking Out About Bipolar Disorder

Demi was relieved when she finally got the diagnosis. “I went into treatment and I was able to work with incredible doctors who helped me figure out that I was, in fact, bipolar, she says. “It was a great feeling to find out that there wasn’t anything wrong with me,” she says. “I just had a mental illness.”

While she’s doing well now, Demi says recovery is something she has to work on every single day. “You’re not a car that goes into the shop and gets fixed and you don’t have to deal with the problem again,” she says. When asked if she ever struggles with being tempted to slip back into old habits, she had this to say: “It gets easier, but of course there are times that it’s difficult. But I know everything that I would lose—not only my friends and family, but my fans. They look up to me, and I don’t want anyone to think that it’s okay to go back on what you stand for.”

RELATED: These Powerful Photos Perfectly Capture What It’s Like to Have Anxiety

One of the major ways Demi maintains her mental health and sobriety is through working out for an hour to an hour and a half every day. “I actually exercise as much as possible because there’s something that it does—it just helps,” she says, explaining that she enjoys a mix of circuit training, cycling, and hiking. “I used to meditate every day, as well. I don’t do that as often [anymore] because I feel like exercise is kind of a form of meditation for me—what it does to me spiritually and physically.”

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10 Crazy Cool Eyebrow Styles We're Too Chicken to Try

Are you bold enough?

Earlier this week, actress Kaley Cuoco took her eyebrow game to the next level by dying hers pink. Turns out, though, that experimenting with your brows is nothing new in the beauty world. From dying them all sorts of fun colors to gilding and decorating them for fashion shows, these days, it seems like eyebrows are basically just another accessory. We've rounded up some of our favorite examples of extreme eyebrows to inspire you to think beyond the tweezers and run-of-the-mill brow palettes.

RELATED: You Have to See What Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting Did to Her Eyebrows

The runway has always been a source of inspiration for clothing, hair, and makeup—and eyebrows are no exception. Last year's spring/summer 2015 Rodarte show featured models walking down the runway with their brows covered entirely with faux piercings. And the year before that, Dior's models wore gold eyebrows:

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If those don't seem extreme enough, how about these eyebrow appliqués from the Romance Was Born runway show all the way back in 2009?

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An equally striking but more, erm, minimal approach, avant-garde artist/singer Amanda Palmer has been shaving off her eyebrows for years and then drawing them back on as squiggly lines:

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Oh, yeah, and who can forget Miley Cyrus' bleached no-brow look?

And just to be clear: The wacky eyebrow trend is not just a runway and Hollywood phenomenon. Check out these impressive brow pics from Instagram:

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My fave color #purple #crazyeyebrows

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While we admit that a lot of these may not be wearable for every day life, it's definitely fun to know that there's so much you can do with your eyebrows!

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10 Things All Brides Do But Would Never Admit To

Like, you know, turning your bridesmaids into your servants

You’re knee-deep in the months of budgeting, working out like a fiend, and negotiating with your mother. You’ve resolved not to turn into a bridezilla because you are not that kind of bride. You are a perfect angel who’s not asking for much: just a fairytale party that meets the fantastical expectations you’ve had since childhood. You’ll succeed for the most part at this, but underneath those layers of test makeup, you’re still human, and thus likely to commit these 10 bridal behaviors.

1. Consider Taking Out a Second Mortgage for the Dress of Your Dreams
You were warned not to try on a dress that was out of your price range, but you saw those layers of chiffon and that beading that was so unique and you just couldn’t resist—and now your days and nights are haunted with images of you walking down the aisle in a dress that’s (literally) suited for a princess. You guys don’t really need appetizers at your wedding, right? And flowers are so overrated.

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2. Wonder if You Can Get Away with Uninviting Your Mother from Your Wedding
Yes, you realize she gave you life and made you the person you are today, or whatever, but with every “family friend” she “asks” you to invite and every comment about how it’s “interesting” that your bridesmaids are showing so much skin, you have horrible fantasies about eloping or somehow letting Mom’s invite get lost in the mail.

3. Turn Your Bridesmaids into Your Servants
That DIY centerpiece looked so easy on Pinterest, but the reality is that you have way too much spray tanning and teeth whitening to do and thus do not have time to hot glue fake birds onto 23 mason jars. Luckily, you have a trusty group of beloved girlfriends who are there to do manual labor craft for you while you boss them around give them constructive criticism.

4. Invite People Because You’re Secretly Hoping They’ll Offer a Service You Can Use
Whittling down your list is so hard, and the final decision on who makes the cut depends on a number of factors—not least of which, if you’re honest, is whether one of your friends is an amazing photographer or has the voice of an angel. You’d feel worse if you weren’t paying $75 for their dinner.

5. Scour Your Fiancé’s Friends’ Instagram Accounts for Details on What Happened at the Bachelor Party
You said that you trusted him and just wanted him to have fun at his party, and you meant it...until visions of a woman named Fantasy giving him a lap dance went racing through your mind.

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6. Cheat...on Your Stupid Wedding Diet
The big day will come and go, but those photos are around forever, which is why you’ve committed to this amazing (torturous) miracle (idiotic) diet. Maybe you’d actually be able to subsist on quinoa and kale if you weren’t dealing with an endless list of flaky caterers and friends who still haven’t RSVP'd and OMG someone give you a cookie, like, yesterday.

7. Go Back and Forth over Whether You Will Change Your Last Name
His last name is okay...for something that sounds like a rare kind of fungus. You want to have the same name as your kids someday, though, so you’ll probably take it. Or maybe you should hyphenate? Regardless of what you decide, you’ll have long conversations with multiple girlfriends before ever bringing it up with him.

8. Be Perpetually Disappointed in One of Your Bridesmaids
It’s hard to believe right now, but there was a time in your life when this wedding wasn’t all you could think about. Back in those days, when you were called to duty as a bridesmaid, you swore that when it was your turn, you wouldn’t freak out over everyone attending every single event. And yet, here you are, furiously explaining to your sister that her selfish decision to go to the ER on the day of your shower is making you question her love for you.

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9. Be Truly Horrified by Some of the Presents You Receive
It’s the thought that counts—unless that thought is, “this couple definitely needs a bright orange crocheted tea cosy.” You’re very grateful for every gift you guys get (that’s your official stance anyway), but for the life of you, you can’t remember registering at the flea market.

10. Make the Secret Executive Decision to Wear Hair and Eyelash Extensions for the Rest of Your Life
Yes, you said you were going to get them “just for the wedding,” and you meant it— but after spending one day running errands with your all-false-everything, you’ve gotten a taste of what it feels like to look like a pop star. And you’re never going to give it up. You’ll figure out that whole “find time and money to go to a salon every week” thing as soon as you get your seating plan done.

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Turns Out, We've All Been Pooping the Wrong Way Our Entire Lives

Yup, there’s actually a technique to it.

How many of you actually think about how you’re sitting on the toilet when you take a crap? (Anyone?) Turns out, it's something you should consider. In a recent interview with The Guardian, Giulia Enders, the author of Gut: The Inside Story of Our Body's Most Underrated Organ (it's a bestseller in her native Germany and was just released in paperback in English), explains that there is a right way to position yourself on the potty, and it's all about squatting.

"1.2 billion people around the world who squat have almost no incidence of diverticulosis [a condition that occurs when pouches in the bowel become inflamed, leading to abdonimal pain, constipation, and rectal bleeding] and fewer problems with piles [hemorrhoids]," says Enders in the interview. "We in the west, on the other hand, squeeze our gut tissue until it comes out of our bottoms." (Sorry for the nasty mental image.) Enders, who is studying for a microbiology degree in Frankfurt, Germany, also tells The Guardian that there are various studies showing that people can poop more efficiently if they squat. One 2012 study published in the Digestive Diseases and Sciences journal, for instance, found that people who squatted on a 12-inch toilet while pooping took 51 seconds, while those who sat without squatting on a 16-inch toilet took 130 seconds.

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Can't picture what squatting on the toilet looks like? Enders tells The Guardian that you can use a little stool to place your feet on while you're sitting. Voila—it's as simple as that. You can also buy what's called—we sh*t you not—a "Squatty Potty," to make things even easier.

Try this technique yourself the next time you've gotta go. Your bowels will thank you—and maybe you'll even tone your legs at the same time.

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How to Check Yourself for Skin Cancer

Could your mole be something serious?

If you haven’t made an appointment with your derm yet for your yearly skin check, it’s time to get on it. Skin cancer is the most common form of cancer in the U.S. (nearly five million Americans are treated for it every year)—and one in five of people will get it during our lifetimes, according to the Skin Cancer Foundation. So it’s kind of a big deal.

Already been inspected by your doc? Good for you—but that doesn’t give you the liberty to skip paying attention to your skin for the next 365 days. (Sorry!) It’s important to keep track of the moles on your body year-round since any changes to them could signify skin cancer. Yikes.

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If you’re healthy with no history of the disease, ask your dermatologist how often you should be checking yourself, says Debra Wattenberg, M.D., a dermatologist with the Academy of Dermatology. Meanwhile, if you’ve got a lot of moles, you should check yourself two to three times a year, in addition to your annual exam, she says.

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Here’s how to do it: Strip down to your birthday suit, and position yourself somewhere with good lighting. “Start at your scalp, and separate strands of hair to look closely at it,” says Wattenberg. “Then, move down to your face. Look under your nose and behind your ears. Continue down your neck, and look at your arms, underarms, and the back of your arms. Move on to your chest, abdomen, and pelvis and groin area. Then you should sit down and check your feet. Look at the area between your toes, as well as under your nails.” Finally, have a partner look at the backs of your legs, your butt, your back, and everywhere else you can’t see yourself (you can also use a mirror to do this). “The back is the number one place people get melanoma,” says Wattenberg.

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The bottom line: Nothing beats being examined by a trained professional’s eye, but you should still be aware of what’s happening to your skin. Your vigilance could save your life.

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11 Men Reveal The Sex Moves They Hate (But Won't Admit to Your Face)

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Certain Chain Restaurants Are Cutting Artificial Ingredients from Their Menus—But Will That Even Matter?

A nutritionist weighs in on whether the food will actually be healthier.

A growing number of fast food chains are removing artificial ingredients from their menus, and two more have just joined the list: Taco Bell and Pizza Hut.

Taco Bell announced that it plans to get rid of artificial flavors and colors in its food by the end of the year, and Pizza Hut will get rid of them by the end of July. (Both restaurants are owned by the same company, Yum Brands.)

Taco Bell says that more than 95 percent of its food items will be impacted by the change, minus drinks and food from other brands like Doritos. “These changes will not compromise the taste and flavors enjoyed at Taco Bell,” the company says in a press release.

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On the chopping block for Taco Bell: The yellow No. 6 coloring for its nacho cheese, “black pepper flavor” used on its beef, and high-fructose corn syrup.

While Pizza Hut says they’ll get rid of artificial ingredients (but don’t say which), they pointed out in a press release that they don’t use fillers in their meat toppings or add sugar or oil to their marinara sauce. They also said their cheese is made from 100 percent whole-milk mozzarella and that they’ve already reduced the amount of sodium in their pizzas.

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Why are they doing this now? "Today's consumer more than ever before wants to understand the ingredients that make up the foods that they enjoy," Pizza Hut CEO David Gibbs said in a statement.

Of course, they may also be feeling pressure from consumers now that other restaurants and brands have done the same thing. In the past few months, major companies like Kraft, Nestle, Pepsi, Chipotle, McDonald’s, Subway, and Panera have declared that they’re eliminating certain ingredients from their menus.

While this all sounds good, what does it mean, exactly? Will Pizza Hut and Taco Bell be healthier as a result of ditching artificial ingredients?

Not exactly, says nutritionist Jessica Cording, R.D. “Removing these ingredients is a positive step, given the range of related health concerns,” she says. “Regardless of what we do and don't know about the long-term effects of these flavoring, coloring, and sweetening agents, they certainly aren't actively good for us, and many consumers and health-care professionals will be happy to see them go.”

Nutritionist Lisa Moskovitz, R.D., founder of New York Nutrition Group, agrees and points out that artificial flavors and colors aren’t doing anything for us nutritionally, anyway.

She’s particularly happy to see Taco Bell’s yellow No. 6 dye go but points out that this still doesn’t make either place the best restaurant to visit when you’re trying to eat well since the changes don’t significantly lower calories, salt, sugar, or saturated fats in their foods.

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“These foods should not be a staple in anyone's diet no matter how many artificial ingredients they filter out,” says Moskovitz.

So while eliminating artificial ingredients is a step in the right direction, pizza and tacos are still foods that should only be eaten here and there. If you want to eat healthy, it’s better to choose foods that contain more nutritious ingredients, not just real ingredients…or you could always prepare your meals yourself.

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Consider Yourself Very Lucky if You Don’t Have One of These 5 Vaginal Disorders

Your lady parts will cry after reading this.

Your vagina is a pretty low-maintenance body part (it cleans itself, after all). But for some women, it can be a major pain—literally. Numbers vary, but a small percentage of otherwise healthy women deal with rare but very real vaginal conditions that cause excruciating discomfort that makes having sex—and even day-to-day activities like sitting down—extremely difficult. And the worst part is, doctors don’t always know what causes them, which means treatment can be spotty or nonexistent. Here are five down-there disorders that make life difficult for some unlucky ladies.

Muscles That Clench So Much, You Can't Insert Tampons
This is typically what happens when you have vaginismus, a mysterious disorder characterized by involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor muscles that control the vagina, says Teresa Hoffman, M.D., an ob-gyn at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore. The clenched muscles can be uncomfortable or painful, even triggering spasms. “What causes it isn’t clear, but there may be a psychological component to it, such as anxiety or past sexual abuse,” says Hoffman. The good news is, vaginismus can be treated. One option involves Kegel exercises: tightening and then releasing the pelvic floor muscles over time to help you gain control over them. Another treatment option is to insert slender plastic dilators you get from your doctor into the vagina regularly to relax the pelvic floor muscles.

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Intense Burning Pain at the Opening of Your Vagina
Women with vulvodynia experience chronic pain at the opening of the vagina. We’re not just talking about a dull ache; the pain is often described as being an intense burning sensation, says Hoffman. The worst part is, it’s unclear what’s behind it. “Glands at the opening of the vagina become inflamed for some reason, making it too painful to have sex,” says Hoffman. Even activities like walking or sitting can be excruciating. Since the cause is unknown (it’s not related to STDs or other infections), treatment generally involves lessening the symptoms. That can mean going on antidepressants or other meds or having surgery to excise the inflamed areas, says Hoffman.

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White Plaques That Develop Down There-and Become Crazy Itchy
Add lichen sclerosus to the long list of side effects of perimenopause, that life stage in your mid- to late-40s when production of sex hormones such as estrogen begins to wind down. “Lower estrogen levels can result in the formation of thick white plaques on the skin of and around the vagina,” says Hoffman. “It’s very itchy; it’s like eczema of the vagina.” Besides the pigment change, vaginal tissue affected by lichen sclerosus becomes thinner, which can also lead to discomfort and irritation. In severe cases, it can even make sex impossible. Luckily, lichen sclerosus can be treated with steroids or topical estrogen, says Hoffman, but it needs to be seen by your gyno so she can properly diagnose it.

Blocked Hymen Keeps Your Period From Leaving Your Vagina
The hymen—the ring of tissue at the entrance to the vagina—normally has a small hole in it, to allow menstrual blood and other fluid to escape. But some girls are born with an imperforate hymen, meaning this membrane totally blocks off the opening of the vagina, says Hoffman. “It’s usually diagnosed in teenagers after menstruation begins: The blood from a girl’s first periods has no way of leaving her vagina, so it builds up inside, causing a lot of pain,” says Hoffman. Once diagnosed, the hymen is corrected via a relatively minor surgical procedure, and it won’t affect a girl’s ability to have sex or get pregnant in the future.

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Tender, Marble-Sized Lumps That Can Cause a Fever
Feeling an egg-size lump on your labia would be pretty freaky, right? That’s what can happen if you develop a cyst in the Bartholin's gland in your vagina. Here’s the lowdown: Each side of your outer labia contains a Bartholin’s gland, a tiny organ that exists to lubricate the outer end of the vagina. Thing is, it’s not uncommon for one of the Bartholin’s gland ducts to become clogged. Fluid builds up inside the duct, triggering a lump that can range in size from a pea to a marble, says Hoffman. Crazy as that sounds, the real problem happens when the duct becomes infected, turning into an absess. You’ll know this is the case because the lump will feel tender and painful, and you may even develop chills and a fever. "If that duct forms a cyst, it might be uncomfortable but not painful," says gynecologist Laurie Streicher, M.D., the author of Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever. "An absess, on the other hand, is horribly painful. Patients come in [to the doctor's office] waddling like a duck, saying, 'You've got to see me right now.'"

Should this happen to you, you need to hit your gyno’s office to have it drained, or the abscess will just get worse. “Antibiotics are needed too, to keep the infection from coming back,” says Hoffman. Cysts and absesses can recur in women who've had them before. "Unless you remove the gland, it can come back," says Streicher, who explains that that's really only an option for women who keep having absesses form (you won't notice anything different once you heal from surgery, but it is a painful procedure). And although there are no preventative measures you can take to prevent cysts, Streicher says that for the majority of women she's treated for an absess, she's drained it once and not seen recurring issues afterward.

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7 Signs You Need to Try Another Bra Size

Is it time to break up with your boulder holder?

Like when you found out what sex was or that Lance Bass is gay, discovering that you've been wearing the wrong bra size is a life-altering moment.

Unfortunately, a lot of women are still living in the dark, says Lori Kaplan, director of Bra*Tenders lingerie store in New York City. And ignorance is definitely not bliss. "When you're wearing the right-sized bra, you can look 10 pounds thinner and 10 years younger in a minute," says Kaplan. That's because, when your girls are lifted, your waist is more distinguishable and your torso looks longer, she says.

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Though Kaplan recommends getting professionally fitted for a bra once a year, you can assess how your goods look in your current bra with the pointers below from Kaplan. Are your boobs hanging tight—or are they ready for an upgraded boulder holder?

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