Gwyneth Paltrow on Love Post-Conscious Uncoupling

"A long-term relationship serves as a meditation on what's wrong with you."

Gwyneth Paltrow has it all: a highly successful acting career, her own popular wellness brand (Goop), two beautiful children, a seriously killer bod. One thing she's very open about not having, though? All of the answers when it comes to love. Just take a look at what she had to say in her exclusive interview with Women's Health for this month's issue:

"If I'm in a relationship at this point in my life, it's got to be a relationship worth sustaining, you know what I mean? I don't have the time or inclination." (At press time, she was rumored to be dating Glee cocreator Brad Falchuk.)

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The actress is respectfully quiet on the subject of her former marriage to Chris Martin (she reportedly filed for divorce in April). But true to character, she has lessons she wants to share with anyone who is interested. "A long-term relationship serves as a meditation on what's wrong with you. You will never be in another situation that will tell you more about where you need to grow than a long-term relationship," she says. "It's a mirror. We pick the people who are going to trigger us so that we have an opportunity to heal. It's about having the courage to turn inward. The devil's biggest weapon is to make you feel like a victim, because then you don't see your part in it."

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Gwyneth recalls when a friend divorced a bunch of years ago. "She sent around one of those e-mails—'Men come and go, but you always have your sisters.' And at the time I was like, 'Men come and go? That's not right.' But of course now I understand."

Pals are clearly paramount to Gwyneth, and when your stomping ground is a red carpet, regular civilian friendships take on even greater importance. "My female friendships have always been the cornerstones of my life," she says. It's her core group of buds that help see her through tough times, but not by placating her, and certainly not by kissing her (very taut) ass. "They challenge me and ask tough questions," she says. "They aren't just like, 'Yeah, what an asshole [he was].' They'll say, 'Well, what about you?' It makes a big difference."

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For more about what keeps Gwyneth grounded, pick up the June 2015 issue of Women's Health, on newsstands today.